A simple word , yet so hard to live by sometimes. Many times used to encourage you , to begin and end a difficult conversation. ‘ Just believe in yourself ‘ or ‘ Believe me , it will get better ‘. Didn’t we all heard those phrases a hundred times over and over again. Still , it is hard to do at that specific moment.

Your phone rings – or even better the doorbell rings – and the next moment you hear a comforting voice of a friend or family member who is there for you , listening to you. While you are telling how you feel ( perhaps for third time that month ) , honestly feeling completely disoriented yourself , describing , explaining the situation . Meanwhile shedding a few tears or even crying it all out . How can you possibly believe like they do?

Believing in yourself. Where does that start? Where do you get that strength ? And if you lose it for a brief moment .. where do you find it back? In my opinion it starts very early on. As far back as when we learned ourselves crawling , rolling back over and walking. With the love and support of our parents , family and first caregivers. Those people already believed in us. Let us experience as much as needed to reach those milestones. In a safe environment. And when we did. When we reached a milestone they where extremely proud, and so where we. By patiently waiting they showed and gave us time to find that strength , the ability we needed to reach that goal. As we grow older there would be much more sort of the same moments where the ones who love us gave us the time to physically and mentally grow a healthy ‘ believing in ourself ‘ mindset.

By going it through it themselves , to see things from a different perspective .. Knowing you well enough or maybe better than you can admit , they somehow see the space for us to grow to. The space and time we so need when we lose our own believe and power. So maybe we don’t have to believe their definition of the word ‘ believe me , it will get better ‘ and just begin with starting to acknowledge that someone is believing in you. There is no need to suddenly feel like miss ( or mister ) world, or feeling like you can do anything you set your mind to. Knowing you are loved , realizing you are worth it to listen to , to spend time with , that your feelings matter , whatever you are going through at that specific moment.

I think it’s a very beautiful thing to believe in.

Everything else will fall in place, believe me. That’s just how it goes.